"The only emperor is the emperor of ice-cream."
Saturday, 27 September 2025
Taste of Cherry (1997) | Movie Review
Saturday, 20 September 2025
Life Skills | Self Awareness, Empathy, Conflict Management, and Interpersonal Relationship

- Conflict management allows us to handle disagreements without damaging bonds.
- Interpersonal relationships show us how to build trust, respect, and cooperation.
Decision-Making and Problem-Solving – The ability to make thoughtful choices and find solutions to challenges, whether big or small.
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Creative and Critical Thinking – Creative thinking allows us to come up with new ideas, while critical thinking helps us question, analyze, and evaluate those ideas logically.
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Communication and Interpersonal Skills – The foundation for building relationships, expressing ourselves clearly, and understanding others effectively.
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Self-Awareness and Empathy – Knowing ourselves (our strengths, weaknesses, and emotions) and being able to connect with the feelings of others.
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Assertiveness and Equanimity – Standing up for ourselves respectfully, while remaining calm and balanced even in difficult situations.
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Resilience and Coping with Stress/Emotions – Managing pressure, bouncing back from setbacks, and handling emotions in a healthy way.
Life skills are important because they deal with issues that are real, relevant, and practical. They touch upon sensitive matters like relationships, values, family, and society. Sometimes they may be controversial, since people often have different opinions on what is right or wrong. Ultimately, life skills connect to morality, helping us decide what is good, important, and just in life.
Teaching life skills is necessary for building a healthy democracy and society. Citizens must be aware of their rights and responsibilities, informed about social and political issues, and concerned about the welfare of others. They should be able to express their opinions clearly, participate in decision-making, and take action for the common good. These qualities do not develop automatically; they need to be taught and nurtured systematically.
For young people, training in life skills brings many benefits. It builds self-confidence, helping them face challenges such as peer pressure, bullying, or discrimination. It gives them a voice in school, their community, and in society. It also helps them prepare for adult and working life by understanding their rights, fulfilling their responsibilities, and making a positive contribution to the world.
In short, life skills are not just about surviving but about thriving — they help us grow as individuals, improve our relationships, and create a society that is informed, responsible, and compassionate.
#Understanding Self Awareness
Why is Self-Awareness Important?
Many times, we do not pause to identify our strengths and weaknesses. This can cause:
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Underuse of strengths (you don’t realize what you’re good at).
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Unrecognized weaknesses (your habits block your growth without you noticing).
Self-awareness helps you
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Be comfortable with yourself.
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Use your strengths fully.
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Recognize and manage stress.
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Improve your decision-making.
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Build healthy relationships.
Example: If a person realizes he procrastinates (keeps delaying work), he can practice better time management and improve efficiency.
- Internal Self-Awareness : Understanding your emotions, motivations, values, strengths, beliefs, thoughts, inner world and weaknesses.Example: You realize you feel anxious before group presentations because you fear judgment.
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External Self-Awareness : Understanding how others see you, perceives you and your actions and your personality.Example: You may think you are “funny,” but others may see you as “sarcastic.” Knowing this helps you adjust your behavior.
Many people ignore their feelings of dissatisfaction, stress, or unhappiness. They might say, “Everything looks fine — why do I feel empty?” Without self-awareness, such feelings stay unexplored and grow into bigger problems like anxiety or burnout.
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Ignoring feelings : More stress, distraction, unhappiness.
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Exploring feelings : Clarity, self-growth, healthier decisions.
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Hamlet (Shakespeare) ignored his conflicting emotions for too long, leading to tragedy.
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In Tamasha movie, Ved realizes he is unhappy because he is living society’s version of success, not his own truth. His breakthrough comes only when he becomes self-aware.
Self-awareness builds many important life skills:
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Recognizing strengths & challenges – You know what you’re good at and what needs work.
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Managing needs & emotions – You can talk about your feelings and handle stress better.
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Understanding others – Empathy grows when you understand yourself first.
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Building self-esteem – You learn to value yourself realistically, not by comparing with others.
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Learning from mistakes – You develop a growth mindset, turning failures into lessons.
Example: A boss who is self-aware realizes that shouting at employees lowers morale. Instead, he practices calm communication, creating a healthier workplace.
# Empathy
'Empathy is seeing with the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another, and feeling with the heart of another'
Empathy is the foundation of strong and healthy relationships. When you listen and understand without judgment, people feel valued and cared for. This strengthens bonds with friends, family, colleagues, or even strangers. An empathetic person naturally becomes a better listener and a better human being in every relationship. They don’t just hear words, but also feel the emotions behind them, which creates trust and closeness.
Empathy helps us practice perspective-taking—stepping into someone else’s shoes and viewing the world from their eyes. This makes us better listeners and also better learners. When you see life through another person’s struggles, joys, and experiences, you gain wisdom without always needing first-hand experiences. This kind of learning is powerful because it builds humility, understanding, and respect for diversity.
Fosters a humane society
Empathy has the power to transform society at large. When individuals practice cognitive, emotive, and compassionate empathy, it leads to collective actions that reduce harm and build trust.
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Humane policies: Empathetic leaders and policymakers design systems that focus on human welfare, fairness, and equality.
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Empathetic bosses, parents, and teachers: They nurture rather than control, making growth more natural and less fearful.
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Disaster response: Communities that practice empathy come together faster and more effectively during crises.
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Environmental empathy: Beyond humans, empathy extends to nature. Recognizing the pain of environmental degradation leads to sustainable and eco-conscious actions.
Literature is one of the greatest teachers of empathy. Every time we read a novel or poem, we step into the world of characters, experiencing their pain, joy, and dilemmas. This builds our ability to understand perspectives different from our own.
For example, when you read about heartbreak or struggle in a novel, you momentarily carry the emotions of that character, practicing empathy in a safe but powerful way.
As James Baldwin once said: “You think your pain and heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read.”
Benefits of Empathy
- Strengthens relationships and trust
- Helps regulate one’s own emotions
- Encourages prosocial behavior like helping, kindness, and altruism
- Reduces conflicts in personal and social settings
While empathy is a strength, excessive empathy can sometimes cause empathy fatigue, emotional overwhelm, or poor decision-making if one constantly prioritizes others’ feelings over their own. Balancing empathy with self-care and boundaries is essential.
Manipulation
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They are good listeners, offering space without judgment.
People naturally come to them for advice and comfort.
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They are trusted by many because they genuinely care.
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They can understand emotions without lengthy explanations.
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They actively reach out to help others in need.
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They challenge biases and prejudices, promoting fairness and compassion.
Wednesday, 17 September 2025
Tenses | English Grammar
#Introduction to Tense
In English, tenses show the time of an action. A verb can refer to:
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Present time – something happening now.
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I write this letter to please you.
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Past time – something that has already happened.
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I wrote the letter in his presence.
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Future time – something that will happen.
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I shall write another letter tomorrow.
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So, there are three main tenses in English:
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Present Tense (I write, I love)
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Past Tense (I wrote, I loved)
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Future Tense (I shall write, I shall love)
The word tense comes from the Latin tempus, meaning time.
Sometimes, tenses don’t strictly follow time. For example:
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I wish I knew the answer. (Past tense form, but meaning refers to present)
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Let’s wait till he comes. (Present tense form, but action is in future)
In short, tense = time of the verb action
#Simple Present Tense
The Simple Present Tense is mainly used to talk about actions that are regular, true, or fixed.
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Habitual Actions – to show daily routines or repeated actions.
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He drinks tea every morning.
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I get up at five o’clock every day.
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General Truths or Facts – things that are always true.
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The sun rises in the east.
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Honey is sweet.
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Immediate Actions in Exclamations – when something is happening right now.
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Here comes the bus!
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There she goes!
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Vivid Narration – to make past events sound lively or dramatic.
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Soharab now rushes forward and strikes Rustam.
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Fixed Timetables/Programmes – for future events that are scheduled.
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The train leaves at 5:20.
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The match starts at 9 o’clock.
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Other special uses:
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To introduce quotations: Keats says, “A thing of beauty is a joy forever.”
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In time/condition clauses (instead of future tense): I’ll wait till you finish your lunch.
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In sports commentary or live reporting: Dhoni hits the ball and it goes for a six!
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With verbs that are not usually used in continuous form (like know, believe, love).
Subject+do or does not+v1+object (Does comes only with Third Person Singular)
The Simple Past Tense is used to talk about actions that happened and were completed in the past.
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Completed Actions in the Past – often with time expressions like yesterday, last week, ago, in 2005.
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The steamer sailed yesterday.
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I received his letter a week ago.
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She left school last year.
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Past Actions without Mentioning Time – sometimes the time is understood from the context.
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I learnt Hindi in Nagpur.
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I didn’t sleep well. (meaning: last night)
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Babar defeated Rana Sanga at Kanwaha.
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Past Habits – to show actions that someone used to do regularly in the past.
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He studied many
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She always carried an umbrella.
Subject+v2+object
The Simple Future Tense is used to talk about actions or events that will happen in the future.
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Future as a Fact (things we cannot control)
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I shall be twenty next Saturday.
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It will be Diwali in a week.
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We will know our exam results in May.
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Predictions or Beliefs about the Future – often used with phrases like I think, I’m sure, I expect, I believe, probably.
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I think Pakistan will win the match.
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I’m sure Helen will get a first class.
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Instant Decisions (made at the time of speaking)
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It is raining. I will take an umbrella.
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“Mr. Sinha is very busy.” – “All right, I’ll wait.”
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The going to form is used in special situations:
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Planned Actions (decided before speaking)
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I am going to resign from my job.
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She is going to buy a car.
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Something Likely or Certain (based on present evidence)
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Look at those clouds. It is going to rain.
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The boat is full of water. It is going to sink.
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She is going to have a baby.
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Action about to Happen (immediate future)
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Let’s get into the train. It’s going to leave.
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Look! The cracker is going to explode.
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The Present Continuous Tense is used to show actions that are happening right now or situations that are temporary.
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Action happening at the moment of speaking
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She is singing now.
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The boys are playing hockey.
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Temporary action (not necessarily at the exact moment)
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I am reading “David Copperfield.” (I may not be reading it this second, but it’s my current activity.)
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Planned or arranged future action
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I am going to the cinema tonight.
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My uncle is arriving tomorrow.
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Annoying or persistent habits (with adverbs like always, continually, constantly)
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My dog is very silly; he is always running out into the road.
The Past Continuous Tense is used to show an action that was happening at a certain time in the past.
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Action going on in the past
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We were watching TV all evening.
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It was getting darker.
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Longer action interrupted by a shorter action – Past Continuous shows the longer action, while Simple Past shows the shorter one.
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The light went out while I was reading.
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When I saw him, he was playing chess.
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the Past Continuous is often paired with the Simple Past to describe two actions happening at the same time, where one interrupts the other.
Affirmative Sentence
Subject+was/were+v-ing+object
He was buying books.
Negative sentence
Subject+was/were+not+v-ing+object
The Future Continuous Tense is used to show an action that will be happening at a particular time in the future.
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Action in progress at a future time
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I suppose it will be raining when we start.
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This time tomorrow, I will be sitting on the beach in Singapore.
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“Can I see you at 5 o’clock?” – “Please don’t come then, I will be watching the tennis match on TV.”
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Planned or expected future actions – things that are already arranged or will normally happen.
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I will be staying here till Sunday.
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He will be meeting us next week.
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The postman will be coming soon.
The Present Perfect Tense connects the past with the present. It is used to describe actions that happened in the past but still matter now.
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Recently completed actions (with just)
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He has just gone out.
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It has just struck ten.
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Past actions without a specific time
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Have you read “Gulliver’s Travels”?
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I have never known him to be angry.
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Mr. Hari has been to Japan.
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Past actions with present results/effects
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Gopi has eaten all the biscuits. (Now there are none left.)
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I have cut my finger. (It is bleeding now.)
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I have finished my work. (Now I am free.)
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Actions that started in the past and continue up to the present (with since/for)
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I have known him for a long time.
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He has been ill since last week.
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We have lived here for ten years.
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We haven’t seen Padina for several months.
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The Past Perfect Tense is used to show that one action was completed before another action or time in the past.
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Action completed before a specific time in the past
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I met him in New Delhi in 1996. I had seen him five years before.
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When two past actions happen, the earlier action takes Past Perfect and the later one takes Simple Past
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When I reached the station, the train had started. (So I missed it.)
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I had done my exercise when Hari came to see me.
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I had written the letter before he arrived.
The Future Perfect Tense is used to describe an action that will be finished before a specific time in the future.
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I shall have written my exercise by then.
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He will have left before you go to see him.
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By the end of this month, I will have worked here for five years.
Affirmative Sentence
The Present Perfect Continuous Tense is used when an action started in the past and is still continuing in the present.
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He has been sleeping for five hours (and is still sleeping).
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They have been building the bridge for several months.
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They have been playing since four o’clock.
Affirmative Sentence
The Past Perfect Continuous Tense is used for an action that began before a certain point in the past and continued up to that time.
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At that time, he had been writing a novel for two months.
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When Mr. Mukerji came to the school in 1995, Mr. Anand had already been teaching there for five years.
Articles | English Grammar
# Introduction
The words a, an, and the are called Articles, and they are always placed before nouns. In English, there are two types of articles – a (or an) and the.
The words a or an are known as the Indefinite Article because they refer to a person or thing in a general way, not something particular. For example, when we say a doctor, it means any doctor, not a specific one. The indefinite article is always used before singular countable nouns. Some examples are: a book, an orange, a girl.
On the other hand, the word the is called the Definite Article because it points out a particular person or thing. For example, He saw the doctor means a specific doctor that we already know about. Unlike a or an, the definite article can be used not only with singular countable nouns, but also with plural countable nouns and even with uncountable nouns. Some examples are: the book, the books, the milk.
#Use of A and An Articles (Indefinite Articles)
The choice between a and an depends on sound, not just on the first letter of the word.
We use an before a word that begins with a vowel sound. Examples: an ass, an enemy, an ink-pad, an orange, an umbrella, an hour, an honest man, an heir. Notice that in words like hour, honest, and heir, the letter h is not pronounced. That is why they begin with a vowel sound and take an.
Ex. Ramesh is an immature boy.
Ex. He is a boy.
- It is a beautiful day.
In older English, and still among some native speakers, an is used before words beginning with “h” if the first syllable is not stressed. Examples: an hotel, an historical novel. However, in modern English, it is more common to say a hotel, a historical novel.
The Indefinite Article (a or an) is used in the following ways:
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In the sense of “one.”
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Twelve inches make a foot.
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Not a word was said.
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A word to the wise is sufficient.
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A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
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In the vague sense of “a certain.”
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A Kishore Kumar is suspected by the police. (= a certain person named Kishore Kumar)
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One evening a beggar came to my door.
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In the sense of “any,” to represent a whole class.
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A pupil should obey his teacher. (= any pupil)
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A cow is a useful animal. (= cows in general)
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To make a proper noun into a common noun.
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A Daniel comes to judgement! (= a very wise man, comparing someone to Daniel of the Bible)
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# Use of the Definite Article – “The”
The word the is called the Definite Article because it points to a particular person or thing.
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When we talk about a particular person or thing, or one already mentioned.
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The book you want is out of print. (the book = the one you want)
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Let’s go to the park. (the park in this town)
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The girl cried. (the girl already talked about)
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When a singular noun is used to represent a whole class.
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The cow is a useful animal. (= cows in general)
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The horse is a noble animal.
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The cat loves comfort.
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The rose is the sweetest of all flowers.
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The banyan is a kind of fig tree.
(Wrong: a kind of a fig tree)
# Man and woman can also be used in a general sense without articles:
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Man is the only animal that uses fire.
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Woman is man’s mate.
But in modern English, it is more common to say:
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A man and a woman OR men and women.
Example: A woman is more sensitive than a man.
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Before certain proper names, especially place-names:
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Oceans and seas → the Pacific, the Black Sea
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Rivers → the Ganga, the Nile
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Canals → the Suez Canal
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Deserts → the Sahara
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Groups of islands → the West Indies
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Mountain ranges → the Himalayas, the Alps
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Some countries (with Republic, Kingdom, or plural names) → the Irish Republic, the United Kingdom, the Netherlands, the Ukraine
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Cities with “the” → the Hague
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Before names of certain books. (Religious/classical texts)
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The Vedas, the Puranas, the Iliad, the Ramayana.
But we say: Homer’s Iliad, Valmiki’s Ramayana.
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Before names of unique things.
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The sun, the sky, the ocean, the sea, the earth.
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Sometimes the is placed before a common noun to give it an abstract meaning:
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The warrior (the warlike spirit) in him was aroused.
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Before a proper noun when it is qualified by an adjective or a defining clause.
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The great Caesar, the immortal Shakespeare.
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The Mr. Roy whom you met last night is my uncle.
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With superlatives.
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The darkest cloud has a silver lining.
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This is the best book of elementary chemistry.
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He was the first man to arrive.
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#When to Omit Articles
Sometimes in English, we do not use any article (a, an, or the) before a noun. This usually happens in the following cases:
- Articles are omitted before names of substances and abstract nouns (uncountable nouns) when used in a general sense. For example: Sugar is bad for your teeth, Gold is a precious metal, Wisdom is the gift of heaven, and Honesty is the best policy. However, if these nouns refer to something specific, then the is used. For instance: Would you pass me the sugar? (meaning the sugar on the table) or The wisdom of Solomon is great.
- No article is used before plural countable nouns in a general sense. For example: Children like chocolates or Computers are used in many offices. But when these nouns refer to specific people or things, we use the, as in Where are the children? (meaning our children).
- Most proper nouns—names of people, continents, countries, cities, individual mountains, lakes, or islands—do not take an article. We say Gopal, Europe, Pakistan, Nagpur, Mount Everest.
- The article is usually dropped before names of meals when used in a general sense: What time do you have lunch? or Dinner is ready. But when meals are described with an adjective or specified, we use a or the. For example: I had a late lunch today or The dinner we had at the Tourist Hotel was very nice.
- We do not use an article before the names of languages, as in We are studying English or They speak Punjabi at home.
- Nouns like school, college, university, church, bed, hospital, prison omit the article when the place is used for its primary purpose: I learnt French at school, We go to church on Sundays, He is still in hospital. But if we talk about the place as a building or object, then the is used: The school is very near my home, The bed is broken, I went to the hospital to see my uncle.
- We leave out the article before names of relations such as father, mother, aunt, uncle, and also words like cook or nurse when they mean “our cook” or “our nurse.” For example: Father has returned, Aunt wants you to see her, Cook has given notice.
- No article is used before predicative nouns that denote a unique position, i.e., a position normally held by one person at a time. For example: He was elected chairman of the Board or Mr. Banerji became Principal of the College in 1995.
- The article is dropped in certain verb + object phrases, such as: to catch fire, to take breath, to give battle, to cast anchor, to lose heart, to set sail, to leave home, to strike root, to take offence.
- Articles are omitted in certain preposition + object phrases, for example: at home, in debt, by day, by night, at noon, at sunset, on foot, by train, on horseback, in jest, at ease, above ground, under ground.
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